Miscellaneous, But Informative
11 More Months For Alive In 2025!
Whew!!! 1/12th of the year has _________. You fill in the blank: Gone? Passed? Flew by? How was your January 2025?
With just a few days of January 2025 left, there are 11 more months to go. If your January was so-so, how will your February be? Have you planned for something better? Have you pre-paved the road for your life to be more enriched? Have you decided to be the best you can be for the remaining 11 months?
In terms of parenting, are you still waiting for it to be better? Are you already feeling drained by the weight of the responsibility? Do you know there is a way around parental heaviness? Is empowerment parenting even a thought you would entertain? Would you consider yourself to be an enlightened parent at some point? En-light-ened means to bring in light, to feel lighter, and to actually enjoy, love, and find extreme joy in parenting no matter what is occurring.
Yes, it is possible. My parenting life wasn’t perfect. It was challenging. It was filled with lots of unknowns. It was not a straight path. There were many bumps in the road. Many of the bumps, if I may be completely honest, were much more than just bumps. BUT, my parenting life was always joyful, fun, pleasant, and the best decision I ever made no matter what was happening. I love every single minute of it.
It was always joyful, fun, pleasant, and the best decision I ever made because of me understanding some universal parenting truths. Those understandings are what I share in my parenting program. These are topics of discussion. I can’t just list them here and wash my hands.
Plus, change takes time. Altering what one thinks is a good parental practice to a different one takes reminders and effort. This is why I allow the luxury of working with parents for three months. Three months of explaining, listening, discussing, reminding, encouraging, supporting, caring, and offering parental, universal truths that work with the children of today.
Before us are 11 more months in 2025 so that your parental dreams are kept alive in 2025. Not only, kept alive, but stay alive and thrive alive permanently.
What will be your parental life by May? By August? Your parental legacy begins today. It begins when you rid yourself of outdated parenting “rules” and bring in parental empowerment and enlightenment. 11 more months to go!
Phone: Add Ridex To Septic Tank
It never ceases to amaze me how I can nearly instantly create a blog from any subject. My phone just reminded me that it’s time to add Ridex tonight. If you’re not knowledgeable about Ridex, it’s a store bought substance filled with little creatures that love to dine in septic tanks. These little buggers dine, devour, and decrease the tank’s contents. This process allows whatever is in there to diminish to the point it can seep out into our ground.
While it’s not a subject that most want to discuss let alone write about, it is a minor monthly action I do to enjoy the benefits of modern living that include indoor plumbing. And, for that, I willingly make sure we have Ridex every month to flush down the toilet according to my phone’s notices because unlike remembering my dogs’ monthly medications, I don’t really want to have to put Ridex into my brain as something I must remember to do.
We didn’t want a house with a septic system for this very reason. No, we purposely chose a house in which the listing said, “City sewer.” The day before we were to close with all of our belongings in a huge U-Haul truck and after 10 days in a hotel room with two dogs, we learned that this house was not on city sewer, but had a septic tank.
Huh. Ugh. Big decision to ponder.
The decision process was heavily influenced by all the moving proceedings that began in April once we both agreed, ”It’s time for us to move.” Four trips to Idaho, Montana, Wyoming, and South Dakota occurred relatively quickly because “west, but not west coast” is where we initially intended to live. Four trips of at least 12 hours of driving only to realize that we would be out priced at every turn in 2021 due to a massive exodus of Californians with deep pockets filled with cash. Lots of cash.
Realtors were pleasantly stunned as prices tripled, but shrugged perplexedly when we asked them, “When do you think it’ll return to normal?”
We needed a new plan. A new direction. A different way of thinking.
We were moving from a small, remote town in the Upper Peninsula of Michigan were we had purchased ten years prior in 2011 a five bedroom, three story, 2400 square foot Queen Anne Victorian house with a good sized yard for $148,000. The period-rich details of this house were amazing. Going from such a unique and glamorous house to a two bedroom one bath fixer upper (I’m being veeeeery kind here using the words fixer upper) for approximately $350,000 with very little yard was not going to be okay.
We needed a new plan. A new direction. A different way of thinking, for sure.
To make a very long story relatively shorter, we found ourselves the day before closing in an even tinier town in North Carolina feeling somewhat jilted because of the misleading information representing our potential new home. As you already can surmise, we chose monthly Ridex notices in my phone.
The Upside
The realtor was ethical and paid for the inspection and removal of the existing septic tank’s contents that day so we could be the proud owners of an aged, but empty septic tank.
While walking the grounds for the first time, my husband turned the corner to see a large, white, mechanical, rectangular contraption connected to the house. It was a whole house generator that was not in the realtor’s listing!
We thoroughly have enjoyed it turning on with reliability several times during severe weather. While many homes are blackened on the street, our house is lighted with us watching TV as if nothing is happening outside.
We traded having to spend approximately $500 every 3-5 years to empty our septic tank for a $25,000 whole house gas generator. Our ability to adapt to a new plan (where can we afford to live within our means?), a new direction (west to southeast), and a different way of thinking (we will flush Ridex into our septic tank on a monthly basis) provided us with a top of the line generator.
How many mundane situations in your life have led you to something surprising? Something better? Something you didn’t see coming that would be an incredible gift? We experienced this from the septic gods. I’ll take the gift of a whole house generator over city sewer any day of the week.
In your parenting life, have you had to say similar statements such as, “We needed a new plan. A new direction. A different way of thinking.” This is what I do with parents in my Multi-Dimensional Parenting Program. I believe we always have options with everything…and, I mean everything.
I LOVE witnessing the opening of avenues of opportunity with parents!
I LOVE observing the freshness in their eyes when they realize they discover all their options!
I LOVE sensing the upliftment from the parental drudgery they were experiencing!
Do you need a new parental plan? A new parental direction? A different parental way of thinking?
For more information about my program and me: www.middleschoolyearswithouttears.com/consulting
Holiday Family Togetherness – Physically, Mentally, Spiritually, and…Happily
When it comes to peaceful relationships at the holiday season, it can happen – people aren’t showing us their best. Even knowing Santa is watching, people – including our kiddos – act and react from a place of less than love.
The songs of this time provide us with wintery wonderment that is filled with idyllic scenes, family harmony, and lots of presents under the tree along with mistletoe hanging from every door opening. While it’s fun to listen to these songs and get sucked into the perfect scenarios, they just aren’t realistic. And, for that, I’m thankful.
We purposely chose to come into these bodies from non-physical to enjoy the apparent chaos, the hustle and bustle, and the times when life goes in a swirly, squirrelly, or a spaghetti manner. Finding love, remaining balanced, and seeing the beauty in the midst of burnt pumpkin pie, over done ham, and undercooked vegetables is the magic of life. During the holiday season, the opportunity to choose love over perfection can occur often.
Make An Agreement
If your kids become more than usual grumpy or get the case of the “gimmies” during this time, before the holiday events really begin, make an agreement. Acknowledge the fun, but also the stress while creating an agreement that includes how much time will be spent with friends and family, a family budget for gifts, events, and meals, and a schedule that has all participants involved with the planning.
Knowing how your family will be conducting its holiday season is key to everyone getting the most of the holiday season physically, mentally, spiritually, and…happily.
Pure, Unconditional Love Opportunity
2024 global events have highlighted the importance for humans to step up into pure, unconditional love. I have witnessed neighbors, friends, and family being sucked into the downward divisive, fearful, and negative trap promoted by multiple sources.
Snowball Method. Try the snowball method. With arms outstretched, bring them into the center in front of you to create a ball of love. Repeat the bringing in of love saying, “I gather infinite, divine love. I gather infinite, divine love. I gather infinite, divine love.” When the ball seems complete to you, visualize the now larger ball (hence the snowball effect) of love being absorbed by the person of your focus or going out to yourself, anyone, or anything that needs love. You don’t have to like the person. You’re just sending pure, divine, universal love. Let love do the transforming. If it is still too difficult, ask an angel to send the ball for you. Edwin Spina’s version of the snowball method: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5tl0B23Ap3U.
We all can use this sending of love balls to diffuse anger because of the polarity of opinions and beliefs and due to the information warfare we have been exhaustively inundated with via news and social media outlets. I have been accused, or questioned in the least, by friends, family, and a neighbor for not joining in the deluge of negativity that claiming a side automatically brings. Nothing could be further from the truth because I am involved, but…being manipulated into non-love by the media agenda – I won’t be part of it.
Stepping Up. Sending balls of pure love is stepping up the human game. We must change the way we approach conflict. We must change old programming to love. We have got to circumvent disagreements. We have got to decide to not take sides. This does not mean, however, not having opinions. We have got to reach for unconditional love instead of divisiveness and polarity. Nothing is more important than embracing pure love.
Your Body Temple. Why listen to an outside technology machine that is purposely making people angry. They want division of family members, friends, and neighbors. They encourage name calling, labeling, and separation. They twist words and truth to incite anger…on purpose. Why listen to an outside technology machine that is creating discord on such a large scale when you have your own powerful, divine, pure, unconditional love technology within you literally in each of your cells? Our bodies, or our temples, are trillions of divine technology balls that literally emanate love or less than love. When getting tugged by a less-than-love situation or person, it is effective to use the snowball method because no one is immune from getting sucked in by someone saying something undesirable or being cut off in traffic. It happens to all of us.
Mother Teresa. When conflict arises, and it will to provide the opportunity to choose, we must choose to love because there is global heaviness while there is global enlightening. The age old decision to focus upon either the heaviness or the lightness is personal choice. Mother Teresa said, “I will never attend an anti-war rally. If you have a peace rally, invite me.” In other words, in the midst of less-than-love, choose to send balls of love. It’s the easiest and most effective way to change the world.
Ranting, putting signs in one’s yard, listening to the disturbance-makers, and/or posting one’s opinion of social media do not work. Want world peace? Send balls of pure love right from where you are. Be proactive for love. What would life look like if everyone chose to send love instead of fuming or creating ways to force people behave in ways that will make certain pockets of society happier? Go forth with the most powerful force on Earth – Love. Go forth in the direction of love. Want others to have solar panels? Get them yourself. Want others to buy an electric car? Get one yourself. Want peace in the world? Be peaceful. And, the opposite it true. Division breeds division. Labeling breeds labeling. Hate (of anyone) breeds hate.
The Sports Analogy. In football or any sport, there is no game without competition. It would be a boring game that no one would watch if the quarterback could make successful catches each time. No competition? It would be a low-attended, boring game. Competition is what makes games games.
Also in sports, there is no forward movement without someone else making an incredible shot, putt, or tackle that leads to others believing they can do the same. Then, the bar has been raised for what is possible as in the example of Tiger Woods.
In the world of politics, the sides are the competition that create newness (like a younger, new, different thinking political party??? It’s coming!), raising the bar, creating anew, thinking of what could be, and pondering how things could be better among other creations. The current political rhetoric (also known as mudslinging, name-calling, irrational blaming, or just plain old yuck from both sides) is actually creating newness from the yuck. So the two political sides in the USA are actually helping each other become better. Clarity follows chaos. Choose to see what is really happening with current events.
Human Quantum Jumping. I heard this recently: No matter who would win the USA election, we humans were going to rise up as a species anyway no matter how it appears for clarity always follows chaos. One path was a slow rising up. One path was a quicker, ripping off the band aid path. The sooner we can with what some people call ascend, the better. Be part of the rising up and not the division, the categorizing, and the hate. Be in pure, unconditional love. Send it to others and to Mother Earth.
Help Is Already Here. And, while I’m letting (almost) everything out…We Are Not Alone! MANY other divine creations such as angels are doing overtime right now making sure we succeed. It may look terrible at times presently and in the near future, but keep focusing on what is pure love, keep sending balls of love, and keep listening to your Soul not the news. It is time to ascend to the next level of humanness. Perhaps, we can all make a quantum jump to rise up multiple levels just like we did when 9/11 occurred. The global compassion “rating” skyrocketed, and we humans made quantum jumps toward pure, unconditional love.
More Information. If you want to know more about what I wrote, let me know by scheduling time with me using: https://talktolizabeth.as.me/. There is much more to the apparent chaos occurring right now. Much more. It is divinely and perfectly unfolding independent of the USA election result because what is happening on Earth is MUCH bigger than one election…for the positive change that is already occurring is not just on a global scale, but on a universal scale. We humans have much to look forward to. Be in the energy of love and the forward movement that is already in motion.
The Win or Lose…We Still Booze Blog – It’s Not What You Think!
Win or Lose…We Still Booze*
*I am not promoting drinking, excessive drinking, or hiding from what occurred. I am promoting positive, purposely-selected perspective.
A few years ago, a college student told me this saying of her campus during football season: Win or Lose…We Still Booze. I’m pretty sure it’s the saying, attitude, or behavior at many college campuses.
I like the saying because it provides perspective. It says that winning isn’t everything. It says that life goes on. It says, “We will continue enjoying life no matter what.”
While winning is fun and can have great beneficial results, it’s not the totality of life, and in this case, her particular campus’ life. In fact, Win or Lose…We Still Booze has I want to live a full life no matter what written all over it.
Circumventing Current Events
Win or Lose…We Still Booze is oozing an energy that circumvents the events to a level of living that supersedes drama, the hills and valleys, and the pulls at our heart strings. Yes, I love the breath of fresh air that Win or Lose…We Still Booze provides.
So we just had a HUGE election filled with draining drama, tons of negative mud-slinging, high fervor of emotions, and polarity like we’ve never have seen before. How can we have the Win or Lose…We Still Booze mentality no matter is we are pleased with the election results or not? It is a choice.
It’s choice to choose love over hate. It’s a choice to step up as a full living human to select the best that life has to offer no matter who is president. It is a choice to live life to the fullest by just doing that because anything else is a self-demeaning choice. Why give external events your power? Why mope, groan, bitch, complain…you get the idea…and give your power to bigger-than-you dramas?
Understanding Healthy Competition
For some people, they’re going to need something more to hang their hats on to even get a whiff of the pleasant smell of love. Healthy competition is a good possibility to achieve this.
Primarily, healthy competition is not what was on display during the 2024 election. Some of it was beneficial, however. I’ll explain: First, competition needs at least two sides. The 2024 election had that. Check.
Healthy competition needs one to be “ahead” of the other. Again, this attribute was present. Check.
Healthy competition needs to breed vision, ideas, new ways of being, and what is possible. Yes, yes, yes, and yes.
Despite all the hurtful rhetoric, the election bred vision, ideas, new ways of being, and what is possible. Aren’t we all thinking of how to do things better and different for the future no matter who voted for whom and who won? Yes!
The two (primary) sides of the election needed each other. What would a football game look like without the competition? It would be a boring game, indeed, if no one was chasing the quarterback. No one would watch if the receivers were unguarded and could easily catch the ball every time with each throw. Competition has its place. Healthy competition is beneficial to all.
No matter what, it’s time for us humans to step up and love with no excuses, reasons, or belief system attached. It’s time to love others no matter who they voted for or how they view life.
It’s time for untethered love. It’s time for unconditional love.
Those two statements can bring on anxiety so let’s discuss what they do and do not mean.
- These two statements do not mean that you allow others to take advantage of you.
- These two statements do not mean that you allow your own life to be damaged by loving others.
- They do not mean that you must help others in huge ways all the time as in the example of taking a homeless person home with you.
- They do not mean that you allow your own security to be jeopardized.
These two statements do mean:
- We can always send love in people’s direction no matter how they view life, what they are doing, and if it’s agreeable or not.
- We can decide to physically or financially help others when it is mutually beneficial, but can always send love.
- We can find something to love about the other people even if it is minimal such as that person makes me thankful for my ____________________ as in the case of a homeless person cleaning your car’s windows despite you not wanting it to be done. This scenario can make one feel thankful for one’s job, home, education, family, etc. and therefore send love of the person who is highlighting your good fortune/better life situation.
How To Send Unconditional Love
Synopsis: The real, tangible positive effects of this action are legit. It’s not fluffy nonsense. We are energetic beings and are capable of sending emotional daggers or love. It’s a choice.
Sending love is reflective. As you love, you receive love. And, the opposite is true. As you send anything less than love, you receive less than love because We Are All One. For more information about ONENESS, see my other books or contact me via my website.
The following sending love snowball protocol I learned from Edwin Harkness Spina of https://mysticwarrior.us/about/. A video of Edwin demonstrating this technique can be found here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5tl0B23Ap3U.
- Visualize the person standing in front of you. If it is person you detest, visualize the person as an orb or ball of light in front of you. If this option is a challenge, ask an angel to stand in front of you to be the giver of the ball of love to the person.
- Gather the energy of pure, positive love with sweeping motions of your arms toward the “person” in front of you.
- While gathering/swooping the energy with repeated arm movements, state something like, “I’m gathering pure, positive, divine love. I’m gathering pure, positive, divine love.”
- “See” a ball of love in front of you going into the “person” in front of you. Repeat until you feel it is complete.
- Repeat the process as needed.
This technique is one of many to step up and love others globally. It is real. We All Are One and all are part of The All so what we send out is sent and returned. We humans must choose love despite anything and everything. THIS is how to truly transform the world. It can be done right now. It can be done exactly where you are. You can do this from your bed, chair, workplace, and home.
We all have people who have hurt us, betrayed us, and left us behind. Sending love to them in this way IS stepping up and sending love…because they need it. If they were filled with love, the actions of hurting, betraying, and leaving would never happen. These are actions that are done from a place of lack of love. Sending love to them begins the process of 1. releasing them from your life, and 2. their personal healing journey back to love.
Tying this back to Win or Lose…We Still Booze, have your automatic response to others being less than pure love be a love response. As in the case of the football game’s outcome, the students knew they were going to enjoy their time no matter what. They already had an automatic response ready to go. Make love your automatic response because…
- Car rage becomes an opportunity for sending the snowball of love.
- Legal battles are opportunity for sending the snowball of love.
- Divorce proceedings are opportunity for sending the snowball of love.
- A failed friendship is an opportunity for sending the snowball of love.
- A relationship breakup of any kind is opportunity for sending the snowball of love.
- A hurricane is opportunity for sending the snowball of love.
- An unexpected bill is opportunity for sending the snowball of love.
- A weird neighbor is opportunity for sending the snowball of love.
- A challenging teacher you child deals with is opportunity for sending the snowball of love.
- A spouse who cheated is opportunity for sending the snowball of love.
Choosing to send love instead of judgement is profound. Think of what the world would be if people chose to send love to each other instead of I don’t like what you said, did, or stand for energy. Think of what the world would be if people created snowballs of love to send instead of bullets. It is transformational, indeed.
*I am not promoting drinking, excessive drinking, or hiding from what occurred. I am promoting positive, purposely-selected perspective.
The Rebellious Teen: Plenty of Parental Options
This blog could also be titled: The Rebellious, Demanding, And Extra Energetic Teen because…
Whenever a child wants something more, different, or larger than you, the parent, are ready for, feel comfortable with, or deem is appropriate, the BIG question is, “What do you do about it?”
Do You…
Do you “give in” and provide or allow the request and hope for the best?
Do you stand firm and say, “No,” knowing that resistance (silent treatment), consternation (door slamming), and verbal frustration (talking back, swearing, or threats) from your teen are coming next?
Do you not make any decision because you don’t know which way to turn?
Do you delay answering your child’s request in hope that it’ll pass?
Do you feel overwhelm to the point that it washes over you like a perpetual parental tsunami in slow-mo?
Do you wonder where this strong personality trait came from? My mother’s uncle was known as a hard ass. Maybe this is him reincarnated. Or maybe: It is an ancestral trait that has skipped generations that has now landed in my child’s DNA with ultra strength.
Do you wonder if they switched babies at the hospital because none of the rest of your family behave this way?
Do you wonder if God is testing you by “giving” you this child?
Do you believe this is your personal karma coming back to haunt you?
Do you ever feel frozen by parental fear or anger that runs through your veins like a slow lightning bolt when your child approaches you with yet another request?
Do you constantly feel like the dictator of your family monitoring the speech, actions, and comings and goings of your children?
What If…
What if there were plenty of parental options?
What if there were wonderful, positive, and purposeful reasons your child is behaving so strongly?
What if there were ways to live peacefully with a rebellious, demanding, and energetic teen?
What if there was a path to parent such a child that put you both on the same team?
The FUNDAMENTAL Questions To Ask Are:
What is behind the rebellion, demand, and the extra energy of my child?
What is behind the something more, different, or larger than me that my child is requesting that I’m not ready for?
What is behind my uncomfortable feelings?
What is behind my beliefs that deem _________(my child’s request) is inappropriate?
The PERTINENT Questions To Ask Are:
How can I support my child at the same time making sure I feel safe and peaceful, too? (Feeling safe and peaceful are your divine parental rights.)
How can I co-create our lives together with my child?
How can I allow my child’s dreams, wishes, and desires to become reality with peace for both of us?
How can I live empoweredly and parent empoweredly thus instilling empowerment into my child?
How can I bring out my child’s unique, one-of-a-kind divinity blueprint (Divine Wisdom) that is literally stored in each of his or her cells so that my child will automatically sense the degree of divinity within each of his or her requests, dreams, wishes, and desires before they are brought to my attention because if my child is sensing his or her divinity, the useless, low-energy, inherently negative, and not-good-for-anyone requests will not ever be heard by my ears.
How can I live in The Land of Possibility with my child peacefully, empoweredly, creatively, and joyfully?
Notice The Shift?
Have you noticed the vibrational shift within your mind from despair to optimism?
Have you noticed the vibrational shift within your body?
Have you noticed the vibrational shift within your environment?
Have you noticed that the tension in your body is less or has left?
Empowered Parenting Sounds Something Like This:
“I love your ideas! I love your enthusiasm for life! Your vibrancy of this age is so much fun to me. It is so much fun to be your parent. Thank you for being my son/daughter.”
This conversation is a big shift from the resistance of Don’t bother me! Don’t ask me about your ridiculous demands! to love. What will happen to each teen request if your child knows he or she will hear the above statement each time?
“You know our family lives in The Land of Possibility, so I intend to listen to your ideas. Together, we will support each other. Ideas make life so interesting, yes? Do you agree? Creation is the highest form of living so thank you for bringing another one of your ideas to my attention.”
Can you hear the screeching halt to the incessant gimmies?
“To give your ideas the best attention, _________________________ (remind your child of what is your family’s empowerment plan).
Family Empowerment Plan or FEP
If your child knows that your family has an established method for ideas, requests, demands, or questions to be prepared, presented, discussed, and familial decided upon, would this known FEP process S L O W down the need for immediate answers to spontaneous requests that may or may not have been given much thought? Yep.
Would having a FEP establish the normalcy of ideas, requests, and desires to be run through a process not only for the teen years but for his or her life?
Would your teen run through the FEP for his or her ideas, requests, and desires independent of you now and into adulthood?
Would your teen carry it into middle school, high school, college, adulthood, and even his or her parenting life?
Would you, by having a FEP, influence your current and future genealogy line?
Would you create an empowered parental life now as well as securing your positive parental legacy of at least three generations?
Establishing A Family Culture
Establishing a family culture of due process allows all ideas to be given the attention they deserve. With using this method, your child knows his or her ideas will be heard, discussed, and given a chance to be implemented and supported. This method also will provide the avenue for other, possible even better ideas, to come forth from multiple sources thus making the FEP process very attractive, indeed.
A family culture of this is the planning place, dreaming place, supportive place, produces an experience of family peace.
Getting Back To The Suggested Conversation…
“In our family, we go about doing requests, ideas, etc. when everyone feels good. Divine Wisdom can be literally felt, and it feels good. Not just good. It’s a good feeling at the Soul level.”
I’ve written often about the different between feeling good and feeling good at the Soul level. Synopsis: People who are coming out of depression enter anger which can lead to revenge. In this stage of healing, revenge can feel good. It feels good because the person is finally doing something about the depression. Certainly, revenge doesn’t create peace and harmony at the Soul level. A person coming out of depression must go through allthe rungs of the emotional ladder: depression, anger, revenge, and frustration up to hope. From hope, it is a quicker journey up the ladder to peace, joy, and happiness, where true healing and full living reside.
As part of my Multi-Dimensional Parenting Program, I will help you create your family’s FEP because is this a perfect plan that is always implemented (interpretation: appreciated) by your teen? Chances are that your teen may skip the due process and go forth without you. When this happens, revert back to your FEP and why your FEP is valuable. Repeat how your family’s FEP creates family harmony, empowerment, and good vibes.
Parents must utilize/model the FEP with their own decisions, too. Implementing it for age-appropriate decisions, of course, this family culture of using its FEP can be helpful for everyone, instill trust with every member, can create a sphere of familial love like no other.
As part of my Multi-Dimensional Parenting Program, I will teach you my simple-to-use Choose, Groove, Move plan for making decisions that can easily be incorporated into your FEP. Empowerment for all is the goal!
Two Cups Of Water
If your child is still asking and demanding repeatedly for things from you, that indicates a pre-existing well of frustration. That is a long way from empowerment. In high school, my daughter learned how to run well by joining the cross country team. The coach told them, “If you are thirsty, you are already two cups dry beyond what your body needs. Drink water even when you’re not thirsty.”
If your child is moaning, whining, and acting angry, he or she already has been frustrated for an extended time – already two cups short of life satisfaction. The thinking and feeling of this status believe that I have to fight for what I want. It says There are people who keep blocking me from what I want.
Keep on with your FEP especially if it’s a relatively new entity in your family culture. The more your child feels free, respected, and empowered, the less “thirsty” for those lower energetic ideas he or she will be. Higher level ideas will be discovered, thought about, and presented to the family.
“I have a great life,” will replace rebellion. Fulfillment will replace frustration. Happiness will replace, “Life sucks.” Contentment will replace agitation. Discernment will replace mindless and repetitive asking. Wanting to be at home more often will replace, “I need to get out of here.”
Enjoy purposeful, positive, and empowered parenting! If I can be helpful to your family: https://middleschoolyearswithouttears.com/consulting/
Blue Pumpkins!
Being the strange kid during the hour long elementary school bus ride looking for angels wasn’t new to me. After all, I was raised Presbyterian attending a Lutheran grade school, so I often heard about angels from the pulpits for years. While the other bus riders were talking (yelling is more like it), picking on others, or singing, I’m looking up hoping to see at least one angel floating in the bus’s empty space above the windows.
If I were an angel, that’s where I’d hang out, I thought.
My childhood church’s library was quite small. Its interior entrance encompassed two heavy, glass doors. Once shut, they significantly dimmed any extraneous noise, and the library became a wonderfully mystical environment to me. In the quiet, lushly carpeted room with a dark, rich, and seemingly enormous to my small frame rectangular table, I discovered the spacious angel section.
Must be an important topic to have so many books on angels.
I borrowed and voraciously read many of them intensifying my desire to be in contact with angels. Angel interaction, I learned, wasn’t just for those documented in the massed produced Bible we’ve had since the 1436 Johannes Gutenberg’s printing press that revolutionized the way information was disseminated until the creation of the internet. Nope. These books provided me proof that angels were current, useful entities.
In addition, I read how angels were God’s messengers for the people of the present moment from another source as well. Eagerly devouring all the Guidepost magazines my parents had delivered in our mailbox each month, I anxiously awaited the newest issue so that I could dive into the “Angels Among Us” column. I tingled with cautious, intrigued excitement while absorbing the stories of being miraculously saved from danger or aided to find a lost pet by out-of-this-world assistance.
Yes, angels were guiding normal, current, non-Biblical era people everywhere. So I just knew that angels were in Pennsylvania, for sure, when I was riding a school bus whether I could see them or not.
The Accident
“Angels were protecting you,” my mother told me shortly after my parents arrived at the hospital to retrieve me when I was in a car accident on the way home from pre-school.
I remember it like it was yesterday: the jolt caused by the crash, being thrown from where I was sitting, the panicked question, “Are you okay?” from the neighborhood mother driving the car, and the sterile drive in the back of the ambulance. The mother coddled and soothed her daughter, but not me, which I remember thinking was very strange. The car was totaled from pulling out and being hit in a “blind spot.” I have no memory of being allowed to drive with that particular mother again.
Why Go Alone?
All that childhood angelic reading, learning, and experiencing has stuck with me, guided me, and supported me all the way to today. It’s why I write extensively about partnering with angels in all of my parenting books. Why go alone when we have thousands of angels to assist us?
I have interacted with angels, heard them, been protected by them, received messages from them, seen their energy in the form of a moving ball of light, and probably have seen them in human form unknowingly.
No wings. No glowing head pieces. No sudden images at the foot of my bed. No larger than life experiences – although the inexplicable ball of light swirling around my daughter and me was a bit supernatural, but it was not my first time seeing energy in the form of light.
Allies With Our Challenges
No one goes through this Earthly experience untouched by challenges. Going from the perfection of non-physical status to perfectly imperfect in a divinely created environment such as Earth filled with divine and purposeful contrast is a big part of why we agree to enter these physical apparatuses. With all the lives I’ve had to date, I know I’ve had angels guiding me, protecting me, whispering ideas to me, providing me sentences to write in my books, giving me parenting topics to talk about, and supplying me thoughts to communicate while presenting or public speaking.
Angels are just one type of “specie” just like we have rocks, plants, toads, snails, humans, and water. I like to ponder all of Divine Source’s creations. What else could be created? God only knows. It’s great merriment to think about other creations in our experience and on other planets, universes, dimensions, etc.
Blue Pumpkins
About a year ago, I was talking to my angels. I asked for a sign regarding assistance for a specific personal topic. In response, I heard in my mind, blue pumpkins.
Huh. I took time to really ponder that response. I knew it had to be something weird for it to be meaningful. It couldn’t be orange pumpkins because that’s too normal. Blue pumpkins it is.
Where in the world will I see blue pumpkins?
It was nowhere near fall so pumpkin décor would not be in every store on every shelf. Okay. I’m just going to go with this and see what occurs. Blue pumpkins will happen when it happens. And, I went on with my life.
Every now and then I’d do a blue pumpkin check in: Nope. No blue pumpkins yet. As you can probably guess by the title of this blog and that if I’m writing about the possibility of having blue pumpkins appear in my life that I have indeed seen, experienced, or was given blue pumpkins. And, I found them without doing a google search for blue pumpkins. That would be cheating and completely defeating the point of being surprised when I did in fact see a set of three candles with blue pumpkins on them while shopping at one of my favorite local antique stores.
The whole large warehouse probably heard my dramatic, breathy inhale and ensuing exclaim, “Blue pumpkins!!!” I immediately placed all three candles in my cart. The evidence was definitely coming home with me.
I’ve often wondered about the seller of the blue pumpkin candles. Did he or she think it was odd to have candles with blue pumpkins? Did they wonder who would ever want those candles? Obviously, the statement, “One person’s trash is another person’s treasure,” is true in this case.
What’s next? I thought looking at the smallest of the three blue pumpkins now residing on my office desk.
Giddy with blue pumpkin excitement, I reviewed how many other ways angels interact with me: number sequences, number repetition, color repetition as in driving on the highway amongst six other white cars or parking in the vicinity of five red cars, hearing others repeatedly speak same or similar statements, hearing specific music lyrics, and seeing timely billboard messages. And, then there is the curious and synchronicity of being at the right place at the right time.
Ever suddenly awaken and see 1:23, 2:34, 4:44, or 5:55 on the clock?
Ever see Route 333 near exit 333 at 3:33?
Ever go on a road trip and see 111 on multiple license plates, and after the third time notice you’re close by exit 111?
If you haven’t been noticing these angelic events, you will now!
Brownies
Recently, I made brownies to take to my neighbor. I could have chosen to make them at any point within a three hour timeframe. At some point, I felt like baking the brownies, and I did. I had that internal nudge and began the brownie making actions. When I finally pulled them out of the oven after three times of checking their progress and reached to turn off the oven, the time on the stove clock was 2:22. A surge of angelic giddiness came over me again. The huge coordinating job it must’ve taken to time it perfectly for me to be at the oven at that precise moment. It never gets old. Just gotta love it!
If angels can lead me to a seller at a very large antique store with blue pumpkins in his or her store on a particular day, what else can angels do? Just like there are unending creations in other dimensions from Divine Source – I mean, just look at the vaaaaaaast creations on Earth! …then, angels can project number sequences, arrange a grouping of similar colored cars in close range, and have music lyrics within earshot.
It’s A Relationship
It’s a collaborative relationship just like our human friendships. It’s a relationship that requires getting to know each other, back and forth communication, connection, and trust. Angels are under strict orders to not interfere unless requested by humans. This is the reason for establishing a relationship with the angelic realm now if you haven’t done so yet.
There are many perks to this relationship. Want to see more fun interactions such as number sequences? Establish your personal angelic relationships. Angels are here to be human assistants. They not only can provide with the wow factor such as seeing 1:11 on your phone, but oh so much more.
Their whispers of the heart lead you to your soul mate. Their gentle push can knock a book off the library shelf down the aisle so that you read the exact book you need to read next. (Yup. This happened to me not just once, but several times.) Their guidance directs you to taking a route without accidents. Their suggestions point you in the direction of a fulfilling career path.
AND, their energetic impulses give you the parental know-how that you can utilize with your children at any stage of development for peaceful, joyful, and cooperative family life.
I’ve personally utilized them with my parenting life. I highly recommend you do the same.
For more information about me, go to https://middleschoolyearswithouttears.com/consulting/.
A Recent Concert-Goer’s Experience
I can’t feel my toes. Blisters coming? Why didn’t I wear more comfortable shoes? Wait. These are my comfortable shoes!
Soooo many people here. All different kinds. That woman has tinsel in her hair. How do you get tinsel in one’s hair? Spray it in? Throw it in and hope it stays? Tie it?
That man looks a lot like the lead singer of Kaleo. Did he dress like that on purpose for tonight’s concert?
I hope claustrophobia doesn’t suddenly occur. I’ve never had it before, but there’s always the first time.
Might catch Covid. Oh, it’s here somewhere, for sure. Just got over it. Took a long month to do so…so I’m immune, right?
Ahhhh! The really bright lights in my eyes again! Why did I look up? I want to see Jökull Júlíusson, of course! His voice..it’s so unique. Why does anyone think it’s a good idea to shine really bright lights into people’s eyes exactly in the direction of the area they want to see? Aim them up a bit!
That guy two rows in front of me is vaping right under the NO VAPING OR SMOKING sign. Where’s security? Don’t they see the plumes of his exhale rising up in all of these lights?
There’s room up there so why are you creeping backward into my space? Don’t you know that my back is against a metal barrier so I can’t move anywhere? Plus, I don’t want to move. I like my space. You move up. It was your choice to stand right in front me. Now I have to lean my head side to side to see. Maybe if I yell and clap loud enough, you’ll realize you’re too close to me.
People! Put your phone cameras down so we can see!
That woman has had her hand on her husband’s back the entire time. He is facing away from her like he is ignoring her. Why is she doing that? Is it a control issue? An insecurity issue? A comfort issue? To her? To him? I wonder if she’s been doing that for as long as they’ve been married. I wonder how long they’ve been married?
Those two late 30/early 40 year olds making out on the dance floor need a room. During the ONE love song, I get it. But during the whole concert? Hmmmmm…I probably did this when I was in my 20s. I KNOW I did it publicly in college. I remember not caring who was watching. Yup. That couple is so in the present moment. The alcohol they’ve been ingesting the whole night has helped their not caring who is watching their amorous activities.
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While LOVING the Kaleo music, it quickly became an exercise of focus. I had choice. I could focus on the numerous irritations, my aching feet, the lovers, and the spilt beer splashes on my shoes, OR I could focus on what I wanted: a great musical experience with my daughter and husband. (The concert was an early birthday gift for him.)
Perspective is everything. I thought about: what influence am I having on the people behind me? Am I blocking anyone’s view? Am I annoying anyone? I would want others to have a good time and to be patient with me so chill, Lizabeth. I caught myself getting consumed by the irritations and kept refocusing myself on the music, the singing, being with my two favorite people, seeing Kaleo in person, and the gorgeous chandeliers in Charlotte’s The Filmore Music Venue.
I mean who would think to hang about 20 of these gorgeous chandeliers in a mostly black, somewhat grungy music venue? I don’t know whose brainchild this was, but THANK YOU!
The light show with the music (not the blasts) was fabulous. The music was incredible and way better in person. Being with my daughter, who knew almost every word to every song, and husband has made a forever memory. I know now Kaleo music much better. Walking out of the venue after the encore performance, I was floating with excitement for the experience we just shared. I was electrified. I was going on and on about how much fun it was. I was filled with thankfulness and gratitude.
Yes, perspective is everything.
It is the same with parenting. There are MANY irritations we parents could get hung up on, focus on, and complain about for yeeeeaaars. But, we always have choice. We always have options with everything.
- While your son is talking back, you could look at his nose that you helped to create.
- While your daughter is having a clothing fit while complaining about not having enough clothes in her large closet just after you took her shopping last weekend, you can focus on her two arms, two legs, two feet, two ears, and two elbows that are perfectly formed that she puts clothing on.
- While your child struggles with math for the nth time and you have to explain (again) how to do long division, you can focus on the opportunity to help your child while some students have absent parents, working parents, or no parents to support them.
- While your child makes repeated attempts to have you change your mind about him or her going to a party where there is no adult supervision, you can send love to your child and think of alternative activities to do with your child to distract from the party wishes.
- You can show empowerment in the midst of a hurtful gossiping situation your child experienced recently.
- You can remind your child that your family’s culture is always: We live in the Land of Possibility when he or she is going on and on and on and on complaining about a teacher or school unfairness.
- While your child is late coming home in time for curfew, you can put toilet paper or crinkled newspaper pages all over his or her room during the “late” minutes instead of getting angry. (Oh yes, I have other creative ideas as well to encourage on time behavior!)
- You can draw out from your child his or her Divine Wisdom to address annoying and non-annoying whininess, complaining, or begging.
- You can remember: I am never stuck. My child is never stuck. I always have options with everything. Especially when the principal calls for a parent conference late on a Friday evening for early Monday morning.
Half way through the concert, I got this blog idea! So it was fun and purposeful!
Thank you for the great experience, the blog post idea, and for sharing your talents with the world, Jökull Júlíusson.
My Old, Worn Out Yoga Mat
Today was a good day. It began with a morning yoga class. This particular class’s structure was holding poses for three minutes each instead of moving from one pose to another in rapid fashion. Today was: follow the teacher’s instructions, shift, adjust, and hold and hold and hold. Three minutes.
180 seconds doesn’t sound like much, but when a pose may or may not feel good, it can be a looooooong time.
“Try to stay in the present moment,” we were advised. “Don’t think about what you need to do after yoga class. Focus on the pose.”
While I was able to get into the pose, make my adjustments, and hold the pose (well…I held the poses as long as my body said yes), I found myself distracted. So I began to look at my yoga mat.
Actually, I have two mats. I use both of them now that I want more support. The top blue one is my first personal yoga mat ever. The second red one is much newer, highly recommended, and costly. Spending more than I ever thought I would for a yoga mat, it was to be a big step up for my practice.
I was told, “It’s a game-changer. You’ll love it. It’ll take you to the next level for sure. You’ll never go back to anything else.”
And, that is what I wanted: to up level my yoga. Now, about four years later, I can barely see it because it’s under my old, worn out, original yoga mat. The newer, “better” one didn’t work for me. I had a hard time sliding my feet on it. Sure, it kept my feet in place for holding poses, so it might’ve been useful during the 180 second holds today, but I kept it under my good, ol’ faithful yoga mat.
The next pose, pigeon pose, is one that requires nearly lying face down on the mat with one leg extended and one leg tucked under one’s belly. With my head angled downward, I found myself staring again at the 10+ year old mat with numerous not-quite-holes through it. They were more like divots as if on a golf course after a four-day tournament.
In those divots, I could see years of stretches, sense sweat sliding down and dropping from my nose, hear labored grunts, and feel my dog’s tail touching my legs while he walked under my downward dog poses.
In the scratches and little tears on my mat, I remembered doing yoga with my daughter outside in the spring sun after a long Michigan winter. The grass was so new and eager for growth that it was the perfect cushion for our mats.
Also, the old, blue mat brought back memories of doing yoga “with” my daughter when she was working in California. Because of the time difference, we could do yoga together in the morning by FaceTime before she went to work. One of us played a class on the TV. We’d watch, move into Warrior II poses, and pretty much literally enjoy the class together.
Being reflective – even if it is about a deteriorating yoga mat – isn’t new to me. As a writer, it comes naturally. I see far more in events and situations than most people. Yes, it can be an annoying trait to those who are literal.
“The person just chose mayonnaise for his burger, and there’s nothing more to it!” my husband would tell me.
My response, “But, from all the possible toppings, why mayo? And, why just mayo? It seems odd to only have one topping for one’s burger to me when a plethora of topping options exist.”
Oh yes, I could spend some serious time in that conversation.
So here I am gifted with a whole hour segmented into precious 180 second portions to ponder what this mat has meant to me, the memories held with it, and what future possibilities exist for it assuming I continue to engage in yoga practice. And, I will continue with yoga because
- What we value, we do.
- What we believe will provide us with forward movement, we pursue.
- What we like, we keep…like my old, worn out mat.
These life truths are what drive me to write, speak, and help parents navigate the child-rearing years.
I value it.
I believe I am making forward progress.
And, I like it.
For more information about what I do, read the information here: https://middleschoolyearswithouttears.com/consulting/.
Re-Introducing Myself!
Lizabeth Jenkins-Dale, M.Ed., aka The Middle School Mom Mentor, writes, speaks, and consults to help parents navigate the sometimes nail-biting and nerve-wracking teen years. After nearly 30 years in education, which includes 10 years teaching in middle schools, eight years being a librarian, four years writing a weekly newspaper column called Purposely Positive Parenting, conducting parent-child events, speaking at educational conferences, and writing 15 books for both parents and teens focusing on a variety of topics such as gossiping, personal power, relationships, death, happiness, and many more, her empowered parenting method for this age group is fueled by much experience as a parent and as a teacher. Her approach begins with the universal spiritual fundamentals of life and then spreads out to any subject highlighting her belief in the eternal goodness of life: “You are never stuck. Your child is never stuck. You always have options with everything.”
She offers opportunities for parents to hear her explain about an updated parenting paradigm for children, or the new spirits arriving daily on Earth, with such speaking titles as, “Grisly Gossipers and Bothersome Bullies And What To Do About Them,” “Who Is Your Child, Really?” “Tough Topics, Honest Responses,” “What Will Be Your Parental Legacy?” “The Problem Solver Solution That Works Every Time,” and “The Best Teen-Parent Communication For Modern Day Children.”
In addition to writing and speaking, Lizabeth has an online parental support group and an intensive parent rejuvenation program called The Best Parent Ever Toolbox in which she teaches and explains her parental tools and why they are successful for the older Earthlings to guide the younger Earthlings into empowered, positive living.
She can be reached at 843-576-9040 or lifebooks2011@yahoo.com. Additional information is located at www.middleschoolyearswithouttears.com.